Communication won't solve your relationship problems. But real intimacy can.
Most couples come in thinking they need better communication skills. Sometimes they do. But usually what's broken is underneath the conversation, and no amount of structured dialogue fixes that.
If you're neurodivergent, the standard advice is even less useful. Your nervous system handles conflict, connection, and intimacy differently. The tools most therapists reach for were designed for brains that aren't yours. You've probably already figured that out the hard way.
A lot of the people I work with are thoughtful, perceptive, and intense in how they experience the world—but don’t always have a clear way to organize or express that internally.
I'm an neurodivergent couples and sex . The approach I use starts with your nervous system. It's direct, it's structured, and it moves at the speed your brain actually needs. Usually faster than traditional therapy and more specific than generic coaching.
Who is Neurodivergent coaching for?
Neurodivergent individuals and couples. AuDHD, autistic, ADHD, or just someone who has never seen themselves in the standard relationship advice and is tired of pretending the gap isn't there.
You don't need a formal diagnosis. You need to recognize yourself in what you're reading.
How I Work
I’m direct. I’m not harsh, but I’m also not going to soften things to the point that they stop being useful. I’ll help you slow things down and look at what’s actually happening—without blaming you or your partner.
In sessions, this usually looks like:
- Interrupting patterns in real time
- Helping you name what’s actually going on internally
- Translating that into something you can say out loud
- Supporting you in staying grounded while you say it
This isn’t about performing communication skills.
It’s about becoming someone who can stay present and honest, even when it’s hard.
Why Coaching
Coaching is more focused and more active than therapy.
We’re not trying to unpack everything that’s ever happened to you.
We’re working with what’s happening right now—so you can actually change how you show up this week, not someday.
Some people do this alongside therapy.
Some people start here because they want something more direct.
Either way, the work is the same:
More awareness.
More ownership.
More ability to stay connected to yourself and your partner at the same time.
Coaching Disclaimer
Coaching is not therapy.
This work is focused on awareness, skill-building, and how you show up in your current relationships. It’s present-oriented and practical, and it does not include diagnosis, treatment of mental health conditions, or crisis support.
If you are experiencing significant mental health concerns (such as severe depression, trauma symptoms, active addiction, or thoughts of harming yourself or others), coaching is not the right level of care. Therapy with a licensed provider is more appropriate.
Coaching also does not create a therapeutic or medical relationship, and it is not a substitute for therapy.
If You're Looking for Therapy
If you want or need a higher level of support, you can find me in my role as a therapist at Utah Therapy Works. Therapy is separate from coaching and includes clinical assessment, diagnosis, and treatment within a therapeutic framework.
If you’re not sure which is the right fit, you’re welcome to reach out and we can help you decide where to start.